Why is it that if you are a strong individual and state your feelings openly to people that you are made to be the bad person?  I am not saying that I am ashamed of being out spoken or strong but I am tired of people saying behind my back that eveything has got to be about me!  That is a load of crap.  I will not apologize for people being afraid to confront the situation or to be opinionated.  That is one of our god and goddess given gifts.  We should not hide how we feel.  This was how I was raised and I will continue this way for my life.  If people want to be passive or passive aggressive that is not my problem and do not pass it off on me that it is my fault.  If you do not tell me there is a problem when I ask you "is everything ok" or "are you upset" then don't backstab me down the road and say that "everything is all about her".  Yes I am slightly angry at this.  Someone who I veiwed as a best friend has recently stated things similar about me.  She has said that they were going on for sometime now.  The thing is I am not bothered by her feelings, they are hers and she is allowed to feel them.  However, come to me and talk to me.  Don't post it online for me to read and then get upset.  That is very passive aggressive.  Now one could argue that I am doing the same here, but I have already seperately stated my feelings to her.  Now I am just ranting.  That is how I am I do not hide my feelings and I do not backstab people.  I feel so jaded now because this person has been feeling this way for months and never let on how she felt.  Never when I asked her if everything was ok did she take the time and say "hey I am upset with you when _____ happened".  How old are we again?   I guess it boils down to not really knowing an individual.  I thought I knew her, thought that we spent lots of good times together and were really close.  I hope for her sake that she can begin to confront her problems in the future instead of how she handled this situation.  It is not respectful to hear these things through the grapevine.  Like my mother always told me....if you can not say it to the person's face then don't say it at all!